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10th Jan 2024

Intuitively Creating Heaven on Earth (Part 2)

Welcome to 2024, and part two of my conversation with Kaide Solano. This time, we’ll dive deeper into the transitions that Kaide has experienced as she worked toward being her authentic self and moved away from her strict Catholic upbringing. Getting to her current, more genuine state of being has transformed her, body and soul. It required a drastic physical relocation and a far-reaching reimagining of her relationship with her intuition and insight. We’ll talk about how that has changed her career path, her priorities and values, and her understanding of how she relates to the universe around her.

Kaide’s story was so fascinating yet relatable that I couldn’t bring myself to cut it short. You can listen to the first half of our conversation at https://leaving-in-color.captivate.fm/episode/intuitively-creating-heaven-on-earth-part-1

About Our Guest:

Kaide Solano is a professional intuitive energy healer, reader, and channeler. She’s also a Reiki practitioner, herbalist, and tarot reader, and has been a pediatric nurse for over 5 years. Her website is https://www.thehealingpathways.co and she’s on Instagram @kaidesolano_.

Mentioned: 

The Universe Has Your Back, by Gabrielle Bernstein https://gabbybernstein.com/book/the-universe-has-your-back/

Author and podcaster Glennon Doyle https://momastery.com/

Susanna Merrick, coach and creator of Aura Wear https://aurawearnyc.com/about 

Connect with Leaving in Color:

Instagram - @leavingincolor.pod 

Email - leavingincolorpod@gmail.com

Music by Tucker Winters

Art by Jen Cagle Gilmore

Editing by Particulate Media

Transcript
Christina Elmer:

Hi, welcome to Living in Color, a podcast about uncovering your

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radiant self after losing your faith.

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I am your host, Christina Elmer.

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I'm so delighted you found us.

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Hello and welcome.

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Welcome back everyone.

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We are officially in 2024.

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I hope that everyone had a wonderful holiday and got lots of rest and ate all

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the delicious goodies that they desired.

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We are back with episode four, part two of Kaide's episode.

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I know that you have been anxiously awaiting part two, so thank you

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for allowing us this time to rest and spend time with our loved ones.

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So here is episode four, part two, Intuitively Creating

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Heaven on Earth with Kaide.

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Enjoy.

Christina Elmer:

So let's kind of fast forward.

Christina Elmer:

So you left the Christian college because you lost your scholarship.

Christina Elmer:

How, how did you end up in New York City and working as a nurse?

Christina Elmer:

Take me through that journey because you started out as a nurse and when I

Christina Elmer:

met you, you were working as a nurse or maybe finding your way out, but

Christina Elmer:

you were like really then tapping into your intuitive gifts much more heavily.

Kaide Solano:

Yes, um, left my university and then I went into studying nursing

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because I was like, I can help people.

Kaide Solano:

Um, at first, it's so funny how I was so opposed to everything before in the past.

Kaide Solano:

I was like, I don't want to deal with anyone's blood.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I don't like nursing.

Kaide Solano:

That's gross.

Kaide Solano:

Blah, blah, blah.

Kaide Solano:

I was like, being gay is evil.

Kaide Solano:

Like all the stuff, like all of these belief systems that were told to me

Kaide Solano:

that I know just are not true anymore as someone who has lived the experience.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah,

Kaide Solano:

And I think that wisdom and maturity come

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from experience, not from age.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, so I studied nursing and I was like, I have to, like, know everything

Kaide Solano:

in nursing because if I don't know something, someone's gonna die.

Kaide Solano:

So I, like, would highlight the entire textbook and, like, really study.

Christina Elmer:

My goodness.

Kaide Solano:

And I became a nurse in, um, San Francisco.

Kaide Solano:

And I worked, um, at a sub acute in LTAC.

Kaide Solano:

Um, the University of San Francisco Children's Hospital.

Kaide Solano:

And I love that one because I was a float pool nurse, so I got to, um, they

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would page me to go to whatever floor.

Kaide Solano:

So, for endocrinology, I would go to endocrinology or like, um, if they

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needed me in orthopedics, I would go there as well, um, or general surgery.

Christina Elmer:

So you just kind of floated around.

Kaide Solano:

I would float around, like, and I liked that because I got

Kaide Solano:

to experience different, departments.

Kaide Solano:

And then also in Palo Alto, and then I went and I, COVID happened.

Kaide Solano:

And COVID flipped everyone's lives upside down, including own.

Kaide Solano:

I started to feel super heavy.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I, um, just like it was a series of events that happened to

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me where, like, I broke my tailbone and couldn't walk for eight weeks.

Kaide Solano:

Um, I was having family dynamics where a family member of mine went to rehab.

Kaide Solano:

But before that, um, it was very hurtful and a harmful

Kaide Solano:

relationship dynamic that I had.

Kaide Solano:

And then, everyone was getting sick, and most of my patients, um, started

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working as a COVID 19 nurse, and most of my patients, passed away.

Kaide Solano:

It was just tough, and I ended a relationship with someone

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that I had been, um, dating, and it, it was a really tough year.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I went to therapy, I went to go see a doctor, even talked to my parents, but

Kaide Solano:

I felt like nobody could help me because everybody was hurting and struggling.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And, that was the first time I went to go see a psychic, ever,

Kaide Solano:

and I was terrified because I was like,

Christina Elmer:

Catholic guilt coming in!

Christina Elmer:

You must not see a psychic!

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They're evil!

Kaide Solano:

Everyone had been telling me is like, to not do this,

Kaide Solano:

blah, blah, blah, like, but I, uh, so I've, I've always been intuitive, um,

Kaide Solano:

and not know that it was intuition.

Kaide Solano:

It was the same with, like, sex.

Kaide Solano:

I was never told, or never had a conversation about sex.

Christina Elmer:

Mmm.

Christina Elmer:

Other than like the bullshit that you get at school where it's just

Christina Elmer:

like, don't, essentially don't do it, but if you're going to do it,

Christina Elmer:

this is how you put the condom on,

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

We didn't even

Christina Elmer:

Not like, what does your, your labia look like?

Christina Elmer:

What does your vagina look like?

Christina Elmer:

You know?

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

I never had any conversation about sex, no one

Kaide Solano:

ever talked to me about sex because we went to religious schooling.

Kaide Solano:

So I thought it was just something we didn't talk about.

Kaide Solano:

Like, sex wasn't something we talked about.

Kaide Solano:

And neither was our intuition.

Kaide Solano:

I don't know what I thought that's why, I thought that was just like

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something you just don't talk about.

Kaide Solano:

Those two topics.

Christina Elmer:

Sex and intuition.

Christina Elmer:

Two things that are, like, pretty fucking amazing

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, like, they're the most important

Kaide Solano:

things now in my life, like, and,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

it's hilarious to think about, but I went to go see this,

Kaide Solano:

psychic, and like, so my intuition has always been, like, on and off.

Kaide Solano:

Like, um, now I'm better at seeing, like, auras, and, um,

Kaide Solano:

it's a practice, it's something that you have to, like, tap into.

Kaide Solano:

Intuition is a skill, and it requires practice, and I tell people

Kaide Solano:

that all the time, it's just like confidence, like confidence is a skill.

Kaide Solano:

But, yeah, and so I went to go see her, and, they always tell me the same thing,

Kaide Solano:

like, that I'm also a psychic, and that, um, I'm going to live a really long life.

Kaide Solano:

They told me everything about my life that was very accurate

Kaide Solano:

as to what I was experiencing.

Kaide Solano:

And, it was definitely a shock to me, and I was so scared during this time.

Kaide Solano:

I was like, I don't want to see dead people.

Kaide Solano:

I don't want to, like, like,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, because that's our only experience with psychics is,

Christina Elmer:

like, some weird ass representation on TV or movies that are just, like,

Christina Elmer:

you know, only channel dead people.

Kaide Solano:

And like, they become such a stereotype that it's not, that's really

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far from the truth most of the time.

Kaide Solano:

And in those movies, the way that media portrays it.

Kaide Solano:

But she really was helpful and brought me a lot of clarity in my life.

Kaide Solano:

And told me how to, like, move forward.

Kaide Solano:

And she was the only person that actually, like, helped me during that time period.

Kaide Solano:

And then, a month later, I got really sick with COVID and pneumonia.

Kaide Solano:

And I was in the hospital.

Kaide Solano:

And it was on Christmas of 2020.

Christina Elmer:

Oh my god.

Christina Elmer:

Okay.

Kaide Solano:

And, like, it was just a really hard time.

Kaide Solano:

I was dealing with a lot of, like, the endings of a lot of things in my life.

Kaide Solano:

And when I was at the hospital, I started, like, thinking about like,

Kaide Solano:

what do I really want for my life?

Kaide Solano:

Like, I don't want to keep doing nursing because I felt like I had

Kaide Solano:

been giving to people my entire life.

Kaide Solano:

I had been a people pleaser my entire life, or always, like,

Kaide Solano:

bending for others, like, for, like, my older sister or for,

Kaide Solano:

like, for my family and my friends.

Kaide Solano:

I'd be doing everything for them, but I was alone in this hospital

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room for, like, three days.

Kaide Solano:

And so I was very much, like, what am I doing with my life?

Kaide Solano:

Like, I, um, know that I'm gay.

Kaide Solano:

I also know that I'm really intuitive.

Kaide Solano:

Why haven't I explored those parts of myself?

Kaide Solano:

And I realized I was really afraid of, like, um, because at the time

Kaide Solano:

I moved back in with my parents, because I was living in a duplex

Kaide Solano:

with my friend, but during 2020 I had to move back in with my parents.

Kaide Solano:

And I was like, I don't feel free to be myself here.

Kaide Solano:

And a friend of mine mentioned coming to New York City, and I was

Kaide Solano:

like, I don't know, I wouldn't go there, like I've never, been there,

Kaide Solano:

but then I was just like, why not?

Kaide Solano:

Like, why not?

Kaide Solano:

And like, my dad was very much like, why New York City?

Kaide Solano:

Like, I think that that's like, the wrong move for you, like I don't

Kaide Solano:

necessarily think that, um, that's like, not a financially smart thing, like.

Kaide Solano:

And so I left, and I came here, and I'm not gonna lie, it was

Kaide Solano:

tough the first three months.

Kaide Solano:

Moving here, but it was the best decision I have ever made like I don't

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regret even though it may have cost me financially I have been able to be my

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most authentic self since I moved here.

Kaide Solano:

And I think it's important for people to, like, leave their city or where

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they grew up to explore other things.

Kaide Solano:

And I traveled a lot in between all that.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I also traveled to Costa Rica and Croatia and went to Hawaii

Kaide Solano:

during I traveled to, like, ten different, um, other states and

Kaide Solano:

countries and stuff, um, at least.

Kaide Solano:

So I got to experience other people, but I didn't get to experience it

Kaide Solano:

in a sense of, like, community and showing up fully as myself, really.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And then I started to attract other people that were like me

Kaide Solano:

since I moved here in New York City.

Kaide Solano:

But New York City, I don't know if you know what Moldavite is.

Kaide Solano:

It's a crystal.

Christina Elmer:

Yes.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, and it's something that, like, the crystal's supposed to,

Kaide Solano:

like, almost, like, wreaks havoc, but for the absolute best outcome for you.

Kaide Solano:

And it's supposed to align you with your highest path.

Kaide Solano:

And that's how I feel like New York City.

Kaide Solano:

My friends and I talk about it, where it's, like, The city almost,

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like, either, like, absorbs you or, like, spits you back out.

Kaide Solano:

Like, you kind of really have to grow a backbone to live here and

Kaide Solano:

figure out, like, who you are.

Kaide Solano:

And, like, most of my friends, people that move here, like, kind of have a rite

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of passage of having a really, the first few months being a little bit rough.

Kaide Solano:

And then after that, it just, like, it flows.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

But I think with anywhere, too, like, that you do move into, it's

Kaide Solano:

going to take some time to adjust.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

For sure.

Kaide Solano:

But, yeah, since moving here, I've worked here as a nurse, too,

Kaide Solano:

um, just to pick up for financially.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

But, like, I also got into Power Down Path, which was that

Kaide Solano:

course that I, um, where we would meditate on each other and do past life

Kaide Solano:

regression, and learned about auras.

Kaide Solano:

And then I also hired, um, Gabrielle Bernstein, and she wrote the book,

Kaide Solano:

the New York Times bestseller, The Universe Has Your Back.

Kaide Solano:

And, um, she also was my mentor, and then I met another one, which, her name

Kaide Solano:

is Freitas, and she, um, these are all, like, public figures, and she also became,

Kaide Solano:

like, one of my mentors for intuition.

Kaide Solano:

And I was still, I was under their mentorship, and I was working at, Carbon

Kaide Solano:

Health, which is the urgent care center, as a nurse in Phi Di, and that's where I

Kaide Solano:

heard about Susanna, and I was like, you know, I do want another, like, life coach,

Kaide Solano:

to like, get to know, and like, I'd only heard about her story here and there.

Kaide Solano:

That was back in 2021.

Kaide Solano:

And then I started working as a nurse for celebrities.

Kaide Solano:

And during this time period I also, I've always been interested in other things.

Kaide Solano:

So I was always taking other courses like I did.

Kaide Solano:

Um, I like learned about tarot 'cause I got a tarot, my first

Kaide Solano:

tarot deck I got when I was in high school, someone handed it to me.

Christina Elmer:

Oh, really?

Christina Elmer:

When you were at the Christian high school?

Kaide Solano:

One of my friends from my public high school.

Kaide Solano:

And then I got it handed to me again when I was 19.

Kaide Solano:

Um, tarot, the tarot deck.

Kaide Solano:

And my mom found out about it and told me, she's like, it's evil, like,

Kaide Solano:

don't be, like, doing that stuff, it's bad, blah, blah, blah, you're just

Kaide Solano:

opening doors to, like, the devil.

Kaide Solano:

And, I didn't care because I knew it was really positive for me.

Kaide Solano:

And it was very, like, clarifying,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

it was always accurate, every reading that I had done.

Kaide Solano:

And I didn't even know that I was good at it.

Kaide Solano:

Like, like, and now, um, and then I started going to, like, crystal shops and

Kaide Solano:

sound baths, and I have singing bowls as well that I use for Reiki, um, and I would

Kaide Solano:

go to the Himalayan Salt Caves, they would have it here in New York City, and I would

Kaide Solano:

meditate there and then, uh, yeah, that's like the story of like my intuition.

Kaide Solano:

Then I started to meet other people because I was open about, being a psychic.

Kaide Solano:

Some people that were afraid, kind of like backed off and like

Kaide Solano:

I kind of lost those friendships.

Kaide Solano:

And even with being gay, but then I've been able to align myself with people

Kaide Solano:

that are way more Intuitive like me.

Kaide Solano:

I lost all my friends, majority of my friends from my Christian university

Kaide Solano:

when I started to come out to them.

Kaide Solano:

They'd be like, I love you, but I don't support you.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, that's the I love you, buts.

Kaide Solano:

I love you, but, this is wrong.

Kaide Solano:

Like, and my good friends, like, even though we differed on values, I still,

Kaide Solano:

like, somewhat stayed friends with them.

Kaide Solano:

I just stopped speaking to them about certain topics

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And learning that there's different levels of friendship.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

And that's okay.

Christina Elmer:

Like I think we, we learn that as we transitioned into adulthood that, you

Christina Elmer:

know, we don't have to be perfectly in the same interests or stage of

Christina Elmer:

life or, you know, belief system to have relationships with people.

Christina Elmer:

And recognizing that like, yes, there can be different versions of that.

Christina Elmer:

Like some people will give us more of what we're needing other people just can

Christina Elmer:

kind of be superficial and that's okay.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, exactly, exactly, yeah, so even though I lost all those

Kaide Solano:

friendships, I gained the most beautiful friendships here, and like those

Kaide Solano:

soul connections that I have, like.

Kaide Solano:

And then nursing started practicing my intuition way easier because

Kaide Solano:

I was with people all the time.

Kaide Solano:

So I was like, I might as well just start practicing it, because in the hospitals,

Kaide Solano:

um, there's two hospitals that I worked at in San Francisco, and then, um, one here.

Kaide Solano:

And then I worked at other UR urgent care centers and other places, but I started

Kaide Solano:

practicing my intuition with people here, like based off of the birthdays, like the

Kaide Solano:

astrology, um, and asking them questions like, majority of fire signs born in

Kaide Solano:

those months, are personal trainers or like majority water signs are therapists.

Kaide Solano:

And they'd be like, wow, like how did you know that?

Kaide Solano:

And so, and it's just like you do pick up from what I know.

Kaide Solano:

And what I've studied about people.

Kaide Solano:

But a lot of the stuff, too, like, Uh, if I meditated some like an

Kaide Solano:

image of, like, an old guy would come to my mind, and then I'll ask

Kaide Solano:

the person, like, who's this person?

Kaide Solano:

And like I just feel called, and I started, and with intuition it was

Kaide Solano:

hard because it required me to have a lot of faith and just like say what's

Kaide Solano:

coming to mind, and to just say it.

Kaide Solano:

But as someone that has hidden everything for so long,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah

Kaide Solano:

I had been so terrified to be myself and be

Kaide Solano:

like, this is actually what it is.

Kaide Solano:

Because you get ostracized, like ostracized by my Christian community,

Kaide Solano:

and you get cut off by people.

Christina Elmer:

Mm hmm

Kaide Solano:

And um, honestly, so be it.

Kaide Solano:

Like, my freedom is more important, my freedom and like my emotional well

Kaide Solano:

being and my mental well being is more, more important than other people's

Kaide Solano:

projected fear based belief systems.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, absolutely.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, what are we gonna do with this one wild precious life, you know even though

Christina Elmer:

we believe in like multiple our souls having different but this version of

Christina Elmer:

our soul gets this one life, you know, so what are we going to do with it?

Christina Elmer:

And how are we going to live and what are we going to let go of?

Christina Elmer:

So that you know, potentially in the next one we can come back and say

Christina Elmer:

a lot sooner, I'm not doing that.

Christina Elmer:

You know, I won't prescribe to that this this go around

Kaide Solano:

And you have a choice.

Kaide Solano:

And that's the thing.

Kaide Solano:

I felt like I didn't have a choice for so long because I wasn't told.

Christina Elmer:

Absolutely

Kaide Solano:

Um, if you're choosing love over fear, if you're choosing what

Kaide Solano:

you're doing in your day to day life and how you're showing up in the world.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah,

Kaide Solano:

I think there's other, like, circumstantial things that play a factor

Kaide Solano:

in true life, but, like, ultimately, at the end, everything is a choice, so you're

Kaide Solano:

going to choose to, like, be courageous.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

Absolutely.

Christina Elmer:

So when you were working at the hospital in New York City and you were

Christina Elmer:

practicing more of tapping into your intuition and, you know, telling people

Christina Elmer:

like, I'm seeing an old man, can you tell me how, how was that received?

Christina Elmer:

Did it just depend or was

Kaide Solano:

Um, it was actually really well.

Kaide Solano:

It was very, um, accepted because I was very, like, subtle with it.

Kaide Solano:

I learned about tarot too and Reiki at a subacute that I worked at in the Bay Area.

Kaide Solano:

This woman came up to me and, um, she actually called me a Heioka, which means a

Christina Elmer:

What does that mean?

Kaide Solano:

Sacred, a sacred clown And at first I was like, I

Kaide Solano:

guess this would be, a sacred clown

Christina Elmer:

A sacred clown,

Kaide Solano:

Which is actually kind of fitting because I do do comedy

Kaide Solano:

from time to time, standup comedy.

Kaide Solano:

But um, she was Native American and she she told me that i'm also like

Kaide Solano:

really intuitive, and she was um, doing healing hands over one of our

Kaide Solano:

patients and then had these like oracle cards like almost tarot cards.

Kaide Solano:

And she did them for me, and I was like, really open to it, um.

Kaide Solano:

And then I just started like, realizing, I'm like, I'm, I'm picking up all this

Kaide Solano:

stuff energetically from other people, and I'm realizing that it's not my own.

Kaide Solano:

I, I, for, that's why I think during the pandemic I was such a low, because

Kaide Solano:

I was picking up other people's energy and taking it home with me,

Kaide Solano:

and not knowing what to do with it.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And not knowing how to let it be theirs.

Kaide Solano:

Or like, I didn't know how to recognize until, especially with

Kaide Solano:

Reiki, where do you end and I begin?

Christina Elmer:

Mm hmm, yeah,

Kaide Solano:

And that was hard for me to differentiate, especially in energy,

Kaide Solano:

um, because we all have a biofield six feet outside of, outside of us.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, and it was hard for me to deal with that.

Kaide Solano:

But yeah, people received it pretty well, um, when I started doing it.

Kaide Solano:

I did it at Urgent Care, and then I was a per diem nurse.

Kaide Solano:

Then I got offered a job to be a nurse for, um, these

Kaide Solano:

celebrities during the pandemic.

Christina Elmer:

Mm hmm,

Kaide Solano:

And that was a wild time, because all of a sudden I

Kaide Solano:

was around people that, um, were making a huge impact on the world.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

People that are like billionaires and multi millionaires and

Kaide Solano:

like, um, and I realized that they have some of the most open minded perspectives,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

and that's what makes them so great.

Kaide Solano:

Like, that's not, that's not the only thing that makes them so great, but

Kaide Solano:

that's what I've seen as a common behavioral pattern in people like that.

Christina Elmer:

I think you have to be that way in order to like, allow

Christina Elmer:

in that type of abundance, right?

Christina Elmer:

Especially financial abundance, I think energetically it has

Christina Elmer:

to be, be very different.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

But I would encounter them after like, someone

Kaide Solano:

in their life had passed away.

Christina Elmer:

Mmm.

Kaide Solano:

And like, I would still feel like, that person's like, soul with them.

Christina Elmer:

The person that passed?

Kaide Solano:

The person that passed.

Kaide Solano:

And I remember like, I'm like, should I like, tell them about it?

Kaide Solano:

Or like, I'm not gonna say who.

Kaide Solano:

this person was, but he,

Christina Elmer:

Of course.

Kaide Solano:

his mom had passed and he was like hot boxing his

Kaide Solano:

studio and I had told him, I was like, I'm just really picking up

Kaide Solano:

that like your mom really loves you.

Kaide Solano:

I had no idea his mother had passed the day before.

Christina Elmer:

Okay.

Kaide Solano:

And I had no idea when I was meeting this person.

Kaide Solano:

This person's like a big person, but it's hard cause they all have alias names, like

Kaide Solano:

some of the celebrities that I've met.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

So I thought I was meeting a female.

Kaide Solano:

Instead it was a male.

Christina Elmer:

You show up and it's somebody else.

Kaide Solano:

Someone else and you're like, but it was like, I still have

Kaide Solano:

to like be brave and like share it anyways, and they'd be thank

Kaide Solano:

you, like I needed that or, um.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, but I recognize I do, I do encounter a lot of people, especially

Kaide Solano:

after someone had passed, has passed, or in need of a lot of healing

Christina Elmer:

All right, so you come to New 20 20 22.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

What, what did you unpack?

Kaide Solano:

So in 2022, um, I decided I wanted to leave nursing.

Kaide Solano:

Um, and I had discovered all of my like intuitive abilities.

Kaide Solano:

Um, I just didn't know how to implement them, but I was like, I

Kaide Solano:

want to implement them in a business.

Kaide Solano:

So I need to make more money.

Kaide Solano:

So I applied to multiple sales jobs.

Kaide Solano:

And I went into sales for solar panels.

Kaide Solano:

And the reason I went into that actually was because my, my lease was up in

Kaide Solano:

my apartment and they said they would cover housing for the next three months.

Kaide Solano:

And I was like, okay, Like that sounds like pretty nice and

Kaide Solano:

it's just like a summer thing.

Kaide Solano:

I learned a lot about energy in terms of electricity and in terms of power.

Kaide Solano:

Which I find hilarious as an energy worker now.

Christina Elmer:

That's a completely different energy.

Christina Elmer:

My fiancee works in the energy industry as like for an energy

Christina Elmer:

company, so I, yeah, I get it.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And it was, um, hilarious.

Kaide Solano:

And so I did that.

Kaide Solano:

I'm trying to make money.

Kaide Solano:

I didn't make as much as I anticipated, but during that I

Kaide Solano:

discovered a lot of trauma from like my past and the other people

Kaide Solano:

were experiencing, um, in my family.

Christina Elmer:

Mm.

Kaide Solano:

And I had to get my nursing license renewed during the summer of 2022.

Christina Elmer:

Okay.

Kaide Solano:

So I had to do an online, like, 30 hour certificate,

Kaide Solano:

to do that, and then also, like, when you're in relationships, and I was

Kaide Solano:

in a relationship, like, you kind of get consumed by the other person,

Kaide Solano:

and that took a toll on me, for sure, like, it 100 percent took a toll on

Kaide Solano:

me in, like, my mental space, and also, like, the way that I relate to

Kaide Solano:

other people because of my upbringing.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And especially religious upbringing, and places where I felt like

Kaide Solano:

I had to hide and not speak up for myself.

Kaide Solano:

That was like one of the biggest lessons, too, is to also of letting go.

Kaide Solano:

Letting go expectations with, um, surrounding trauma and healing.

Kaide Solano:

And people, too, even the ones you, like, love dearly.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I think, as I mentioned, too, with, like, losing the friendships from

Kaide Solano:

university when I came out to them.

Kaide Solano:

If speaking up for myself means that I'm gonna lose someone, like so be it too.

Kaide Solano:

And I think that's one of the biggest lessons.

Kaide Solano:

And then I went into sales for yachts for a second there afterwards, because

Kaide Solano:

I was like I still wanna make money and um and it was really wild because

Kaide Solano:

I had uh seen my patients die in 2020 and a lot of loss and a lot of grief

Kaide Solano:

I was just holding on to all of that.

Kaide Solano:

Not only my own trauma, but all of their trauma, like, the problems that

Kaide Solano:

I heard every day for like a year and a half, to see everybody celebrating

Kaide Solano:

on yachts, weddings or proms,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, that can definitely be triggering.

Kaide Solano:

having such joy was so beautiful, but I would always be crying

Kaide Solano:

because I was like, oh my god these people are so happy and so joyful like,

Kaide Solano:

and like this is what I want people to be experiencing all the time, like not all

Kaide Solano:

the loss and the grief and the trauma.

Kaide Solano:

After that I decided I really want to come back to New York City because

Kaide Solano:

New York is where my soul people are.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

The people that are creative and open minded and willing

Kaide Solano:

to show up authentically as themselves, like, a lot of them are here that I've

Kaide Solano:

been able to find and be supported by.

Kaide Solano:

So I came back here and, um, I'm so thankful that I'm here in New York, but.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, I realized, it made me realize how much more healing there is to do so

Kaide Solano:

people can experience those celebrations and healing, healing through trauma.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, absolutely.

Kaide Solano:

And I want to, like, help others heal as well.

Kaide Solano:

And along the last six years, I've lost a hundred pounds myself and um, my health

Kaide Solano:

has significantly improved, including my eyesight and including, um, my self

Kaide Solano:

confidence and the way that I speak, and health has been a huge part of my life.

Kaide Solano:

And I want to help people that have had difficulty with, like moving their

Kaide Solano:

bodies like physically or like, but a lot of things, so everything starts

Kaide Solano:

energetically, then it happens on a mental field, and then emotionally, and then

Kaide Solano:

physically it'll appear in your body.

Kaide Solano:

So that's the practice I started practicing with my patients, is that like,

Kaide Solano:

where is it physically showing up to them?

Kaide Solano:

And then I start asking them questions about what just happened.

Kaide Solano:

Like, right, a lot of heartache, a lot of people that, um, have cardiovascular

Kaide Solano:

issues, I'll ask them like what happened prior to, they'll be like,

Kaide Solano:

oh I just went through a divorce.

Kaide Solano:

Or like, oh, my mom passed and all of a sudden, like, I started, like,

Kaide Solano:

over the next month or two, I started having these heart issues, like...

Kaide Solano:

And I got really into the chakra systems, and, Veda, like Ayurveda, and like, I

Kaide Solano:

started studying all these other aspects of our health and our bodies, and like,

Kaide Solano:

how to clear things up on all levels.

Kaide Solano:

Like, how do I change my emotional state?

Kaide Solano:

And how do I transmute all this anger I'm feeling,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

into love and into creation, into creating something

Kaide Solano:

that's beautiful and like, will not only help myself, but everybody.

Christina Elmer:

Absolutely.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, I got that as, as a trainer as well.

Christina Elmer:

Like, I, when I was training clients, you know, they'd come

Christina Elmer:

in and, you know, they'd want to change the way their bodies looked.

Kaide Solano:

You were a personal trainer, right?

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, I was a trainer for, for about a year.

Christina Elmer:

I, the thing that I, that came out of it was that I loved working with people,

Christina Elmer:

but the one thing that I did recognize that then led me into my second career

Christina Elmer:

in the last three years is as life coach is that there's a lot, as you just

Christina Elmer:

said, is there's an emotional component.

Christina Elmer:

Like we can't work on the physical until the emotional has been acknowledged

Christina Elmer:

and worked on and recognized.

Christina Elmer:

And once, as you said, the energy is transmuted, then things have changed.

Christina Elmer:

And I, I didn't work with a lot of clients long enough to really see

Christina Elmer:

a lot of changes, but often if they would come in and they're just like,

Christina Elmer:

crying I was like no we can't we can't.

Christina Elmer:

Often, yes, lifting heavy weights can help shift the energy because it's just

Christina Elmer:

like moving your body allows the energy to be changed, but sometimes they just

Christina Elmer:

couldn't do it, you know we need to sit and talk about what's going on.

Christina Elmer:

How's your day?

Christina Elmer:

Where are you at emotionally today?

Kaide Solano:

Yeah

Christina Elmer:

To just sit hold that space and then you know,

Christina Elmer:

then they were able to access the physical part to then move into to

Christina Elmer:

the workout that we had planned.

Christina Elmer:

But it's just what I'm finding very interesting about your journey is if we

Christina Elmer:

wanted to go back to growing up Catholic.

Christina Elmer:

We're taught certain things within the belief system that we grew up in.

Christina Elmer:

Like Mormonism, there's, you know, we're taught that, your home

Christina Elmer:

can be a piece of heaven, right?

Christina Elmer:

And how do we do that?

Christina Elmer:

How do we make our home a part of heaven?

Christina Elmer:

Was there something in Catholicism that that resonated with you that then you're

Christina Elmer:

now seeing is a part of your life now?

Kaide Solano:

Definitely.

Kaide Solano:

Um, there are two things that I took away from it.

Kaide Solano:

One, prayer is huge for me, and like, even meditation is a huge

Kaide Solano:

practice for me in order for me to be really attuned to myself and my

Kaide Solano:

needs, and also others needs as well.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I pray almost every day that God makes my life a living prayer.

Kaide Solano:

So like, that people can see how amazing it is to live authentically,

Kaide Solano:

to live emotionally fearless, and to follow, their passions in order

Kaide Solano:

to create things in the world.

Kaide Solano:

And to, like, and one of the things too, one of the prayers in the Our

Kaide Solano:

Father is like, I'm not sure if it was the Our Father, but it talks about

Kaide Solano:

how we should create heaven on earth.

Christina Elmer:

Mmm.

Kaide Solano:

And I would really like to create a society and, that feels like

Kaide Solano:

heaven on earth, where people can have open, honest discussions that bring,

Kaide Solano:

bring them joy, like, health, like, happiness, like, the things that really

Kaide Solano:

matter in this lifetime and, like, deeper connections and just the things that

Kaide Solano:

are really important to me at the end of the day are, like, are the people.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

So, if you were to say that creating heaven on earth is

Christina Elmer:

like your soul's mission.

Christina Elmer:

I feel like you've done a lot of that.

Christina Elmer:

You've been a nurse, which I feel like nurses are literal angels.

Christina Elmer:

Like, I think about the nurses that have taken care of me when I was in the

Christina Elmer:

hospital, birthing my babies, taking care of my mom after she had her stroke.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, I feel like you've been on this path of being a literal angel.

Christina Elmer:

Like you, you took care of people during the pandemic.

Christina Elmer:

Like I think about the frontline workers and just like seeing people

Christina Elmer:

on TikTok and the devastation of like wanting to help people so

Christina Elmer:

desperately but not being able to.

Christina Elmer:

And so seeing your path starting out as a nurse and healing people physically

Christina Elmer:

and then, you know, your degree in psychology and recognizing how the mind

Christina Elmer:

plays a part of that, and then now In your path as an energy worker, like

Christina Elmer:

how you're just molding into this like perfect version of an angel, you know?

Christina Elmer:

Like having all these different modalities that have allowed you to

Christina Elmer:

just become somebody that is using their, their gift to help people.

Christina Elmer:

You know, you are creating heaven on earth by following your

Christina Elmer:

intuition to say, you know what?

Christina Elmer:

I'm just going to move to New York city on a whim.

Christina Elmer:

My parents think I'm crazy.

Christina Elmer:

I'm going to go do it.

Christina Elmer:

And you're just following your curiosity.

Christina Elmer:

Your soul is calling you, Hey, sister.

Christina Elmer:

Go do this, you know, and you're following it and you're not, yes, it's

Christina Elmer:

scary to go up to a celebrity and be like, I feel like I need to tell you

Christina Elmer:

that your mom is telling, wanting me to tell you that she loves you.

Christina Elmer:

Like that takes some, some real bravery.

Christina Elmer:

Like Glennon Doyle says, like letting your insides show on the outside.

Christina Elmer:

And I think ultimately that's all we can do.

Christina Elmer:

Teaching ourselves that we can authentically show up and the people

Christina Elmer:

that are going to be attracted to us, which I, I see people that are attracted

Christina Elmer:

to you since you've been in New York city and you've shown up authentically

Christina Elmer:

as, this is Kaide, this is who I am.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

The people that aren't falling in that path with you are kind

Christina Elmer:

of just falling away and that's okay.

Christina Elmer:

With the, people are flocked to you.

Christina Elmer:

Like you're attracting people.

Christina Elmer:

I'm seeing on.

Christina Elmer:

your Instagram feed, just like you're with these people that I can see the energy

Christina Elmer:

is in alignment with what you're wanting.

Christina Elmer:

And I think that it's just ultimately so brave of you to

Christina Elmer:

say, I'm going to shed this.

Christina Elmer:

Nursing isn't working.

Christina Elmer:

I'm going to try something else.

Christina Elmer:

Like that is so fucking brave.

Christina Elmer:

And I, I'm just so honored to know you.

Kaide Solano:

I appreciate you so much, Christina.

Kaide Solano:

Are you kidding me?

Kaide Solano:

I like, that made me cry.

Kaide Solano:

I think, um, I feel very touched by your words.

Kaide Solano:

And, it's hard because a lot of times these are moments

Kaide Solano:

that no one really recognizes.

Kaide Solano:

It's like, what are you doing when no one is looking?

Kaide Solano:

Like, and the past couple of years have been tough because they have been lonely,

Kaide Solano:

and like, but I recognize that I'm not the only one that's struggling with this.

Kaide Solano:

I think that everybody ultimately wants to be free,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

and themselves, at like, full capacity at their highest

Kaide Solano:

potential, and I think, Yeah, like, I do, I want to be this, like, guiding

Kaide Solano:

light and this leader and this role model that I didn't get to have

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

as a kid.

Kaide Solano:

And I think, I think I told you this earlier in the podcast, but

Kaide Solano:

it was that, like, a lot of what I do is not only for everybody else,

Kaide Solano:

but it's also for my younger self.

Kaide Solano:

And it's also for the life that my parents didn't get to live and my own

Kaide Solano:

ancestors that, like, struggled or that went through war and poverty.

Kaide Solano:

I grieve for them a lot of the times, for their loss, and I, I lead

Kaide Solano:

from a place of gratitude and love.

Kaide Solano:

And it's hard because you're also trying to learn how to communicate

Kaide Solano:

that stuff too right now, like, I definitely grieve for things that

Kaide Solano:

were never properly communicated.

Christina Elmer:

Mm.

Kaide Solano:

A lot of times when souls pass and they die,

Kaide Solano:

like, they want to communicate

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

to loved ones, things that they weren't able to verbalize,

Kaide Solano:

because we weren't able to understand or conceptualize those concepts.

Kaide Solano:

but it's like, wouldn't it be beautiful if we just were able

Kaide Solano:

to say that to each other now?

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

I think that's where also prayer can come in.

Christina Elmer:

Like if we want to think about prayer, because I think about my friend

Christina Elmer:

Marcos, who I just interviewed.

Christina Elmer:

He's talked about how prayer for him has become much more different

Christina Elmer:

than what it started out with.

Christina Elmer:

Prayer has, was kind of like a family, like his mother

Christina Elmer:

prayed, his grandmother prayed.

Christina Elmer:

Like, prayer was a huge part of

Kaide Solano:

Yes.

Christina Elmer:

their tradition as a family.

Christina Elmer:

But I think when you're talking about ancestors and things that might not be

Christina Elmer:

able to be said, I feel like prayer might be a great way to be able to communicate.

Christina Elmer:

Or meditating and just meditating on a specific because I know that I've

Christina Elmer:

had like intuitive readings and, like, my grandparents have come through

Christina Elmer:

this when one person particularly my grandfather's come through when

Christina Elmer:

I was trying to figure out like if I am going to shed the expectation of

Christina Elmer:

getting a college degree because I'm 42.

Christina Elmer:

Tried college multiple times.

Christina Elmer:

Fucking hated it.

Christina Elmer:

Like it's just, I Couldn't do it.

Christina Elmer:

I'd start it.

Christina Elmer:

Couldn't finish it.

Christina Elmer:

And there were multiple reasons other than just the learning aspect of it.

Christina Elmer:

It was also financial.

Christina Elmer:

There's just a lot of things at play in various times in my life.

Christina Elmer:

But just like my grandfather came in a reading and said, like, you don't

Christina Elmer:

need to worry about that anymore.

Christina Elmer:

Like, I trust that you're going to be able to make your way if you

Christina Elmer:

just follow what, what calls to you.

Christina Elmer:

And I feel like prayer could be really a beautiful way to communicate.

Christina Elmer:

Like I haven't thought about that and it's just like, Oh yeah, I could use that.

Christina Elmer:

I don't need to,

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

you know, assume something.

Christina Elmer:

Like I, and then another reading was like, you know, communicate with one

Christina Elmer:

of your guides through writing, just stream of consciousness writing.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

And so just being able to practice that I think is so beautiful,

Christina Elmer:

and just recognizing that, you know.

Christina Elmer:

And that we all, we all have the ability, right?

Christina Elmer:

I think it's just, we don't recognize what it is, which you found when

Christina Elmer:

you were younger in Catholicism.

Christina Elmer:

It was Like, Oh, I can't because it's bad.

Christina Elmer:

Right.

Christina Elmer:

I'm being told that, you know, in Mormonism, it's like, trust yourself,

Christina Elmer:

but you can only trust yourself so far.

Christina Elmer:

Right?

Christina Elmer:

Because ultimately God has all the answers.

Christina Elmer:

And just like relearning all of that as we've left this

Christina Elmer:

other part of ourselves behind

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

has been really interesting and it just

Christina Elmer:

finding community, you know?

Christina Elmer:

That's the other thing that's been difficult that I've seen so many

Christina Elmer:

of my friends leaving religion or religious beliefs, it's like

Christina Elmer:

the community that we lose.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, just trying to find that.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And, and create also, like being able to create your own community.

Kaide Solano:

I love prayer, um, as a way to communicate.

Kaide Solano:

I very much see things in symbols and signs, um, from the universe.

Kaide Solano:

I literally will pray, make the sign so undeniably clear that like.

Kaide Solano:

I cannot, like, deny it.

Kaide Solano:

Like, it has to be something so obscure, I would ask the universe

Kaide Solano:

and God, like, and make it so obscure that, like, there's no way a monkey

Kaide Solano:

could show up here or something.

Kaide Solano:

Like, something so obscure, and you, like, if you do that, like, you're

Kaide Solano:

open minded to it, you'll see it.

Kaide Solano:

When I first got I started joining a ton of groups.

Kaide Solano:

Just join stuff and figure out what you like.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I joined Zumba to start like weight loss.

Kaide Solano:

I first wanting to lose weight was because one of my patients was so

Kaide Solano:

obese and the doctor told me to go tell this patient that they might need to

Kaide Solano:

lose some weight, but I was sitting there more obese than my patient.

Kaide Solano:

And I was like, oh my God, I'm a fucking hypocrite.

Kaide Solano:

Like I need to lose weight if I'm going to be telling people

Kaide Solano:

to care about their health.

Kaide Solano:

Like I have to like, live up to what I say for other people.

Kaide Solano:

And if I have expectations, I need to accept them by myself first.

Kaide Solano:

If these are the ones that I want to abide by.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

But joining groups, I started joining Zumba, and like, I got

Kaide Solano:

more in touch with like my Hispanic heritage that I didn't realize.

Kaide Solano:

It's Hispanic Heritage month too, whoop!

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, yeah, woop woop!

Kaide Solano:

But I didn't get in touch with that side of

Kaide Solano:

myself for a very long time.

Kaide Solano:

I was surrounded by other cultures, a lot of my white friends or Asian friends.

Kaide Solano:

or like the gay community, like the gay community here is so loving and accepting.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And positive and all for like, change.

Kaide Solano:

I'm very much a pro change person because I think, or a pro evolution

Kaide Solano:

person, I think there's ways of living that are more evolved.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

And then joining a spiritual community, like, getting mentorship from

Kaide Solano:

different coaches, joining Susanna's,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah, the Style Collective.

Kaide Solano:

Style Collective, like, where other people that are like minded,

Kaide Solano:

um, you guys can Like talk about things and grow together in that, the way

Kaide Solano:

that you would like with support, like you don't have to do it all alone.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

I think the feeling of loneliness has been so prevalent,

Kaide Solano:

especially after the pandemic, a lot of people have almost fallen back into

Kaide Solano:

that belief of I have to do it alone,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

but

Christina Elmer:

That's tough.

Kaide Solano:

you're not alone.

Kaide Solano:

Even if you're going to go back and get your degree, do it.

Kaide Solano:

I've seen people, like, and I think that's what I loved about nursing

Kaide Solano:

was seeing people in the most vulnerable states at any age in life.

Kaide Solano:

Someone go back to school at 50, someone ran a marathon at 45 for the first time.

Kaide Solano:

If someone at 18 did something that most people, majority, would never do, like,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

There's no time limit

Christina Elmer:

For sure.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

That's never too late to start anything.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah,

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

So going back to creating a heaven on earth.

Christina Elmer:

What does that look like for you now?

Kaide Solano:

Personally, I want to be the best version of myself.

Kaide Solano:

And I've never been, this is actually really interesting, I've like never

Kaide Solano:

been a super competitive person.

Kaide Solano:

Like, even in sports.

Kaide Solano:

If the other team won, I was like, well, they worked hard and everyone else

Kaide Solano:

is like flipping off the other team.

Kaide Solano:

It's very aggressive.

Kaide Solano:

And like, but I'm competitive, like with my myself.

Kaide Solano:

and not out of place of anger, but out of like curiosity, I'm like, Oh

Kaide Solano:

my gosh, like, what if I achieve that?

Kaide Solano:

What else could I do?

Kaide Solano:

And like, for me, that's like being physically, like healthy,

Kaide Solano:

emotionally healthy, mentally healthy, and spiritually healthy.

Kaide Solano:

And I know how to get there, just smaller steps.

Kaide Solano:

And then be able to give other people that gift as well.

Kaide Solano:

And help them on their path and their journeys of being who they really are.

Kaide Solano:

Or who they always were and a lot of times, like, as a child.

Kaide Solano:

And it's interesting because people, I work as a nanny.

Kaide Solano:

I've nannied for over 100 families.

Kaide Solano:

In here in New York City and in San Francisco.

Kaide Solano:

And seeing kids at a young age.

Kaide Solano:

And as a pediatric nurse too, like, you see these kids have

Kaide Solano:

these innate personalities that, like, are very specific to them.

Kaide Solano:

And then, the parent comes in, they're like, don't do this, don't do that,

Kaide Solano:

don't be too weird, don't be too crazy, like, or like, all these things, and

Kaide Solano:

you see them start to, like, shape into who others are wanting them to be.

Kaide Solano:

And I want people to, like, find their younger self and,

Kaide Solano:

like, see what that desire was.

Kaide Solano:

Or explore, explore your desires.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah.

Christina Elmer:

That's what this podcast is for is just, like, rediscovering and

Christina Elmer:

uncovering this hidden part of ourselves that, you know, was kind of

Christina Elmer:

trapped by society, or our religion.

Christina Elmer:

And, you know, I want to be able to uncover what, how

Christina Elmer:

have you become you again?

Kaide Solano:

Definitely.

Kaide Solano:

And so I think, like, creating heaven on earth is just like living

Kaide Solano:

authentically, emotionally fearless, open, being creative, having fun and

Kaide Solano:

doing things that are gonna bring you more joy and bring joy for everybody.

Christina Elmer:

You can't forget about having fun.

Christina Elmer:

Cause that's the whole inner child, right?

Kaide Solano:

It's the most important thing!

Christina Elmer:

Part of like healing the inner child is just to go have fun.

Kaide Solano:

Exactly.

Kaide Solano:

Like, yeah, it's to have fun.

Kaide Solano:

Like, I think people are like, are really concerned about like money.

Kaide Solano:

You can have money and be depressed.

Kaide Solano:

You can like, and all these other things, but it's like, real joy and enjoying

Kaide Solano:

other people's company and the people.

Christina Elmer:

I love that.

Kaide Solano:

And love love.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah

Christina Elmer:

for sure.

Christina Elmer:

Well, I have one question that I, I ask my guests, and what is, what is

Christina Elmer:

something you're grateful for today?

Kaide Solano:

Grateful for today?

Kaide Solano:

Support.

Christina Elmer:

And what does support look like for you?

Kaide Solano:

My friend asked me this like five years ago

Kaide Solano:

and I was like, I don't know.

Kaide Solano:

But I think support is others showing up.

Kaide Solano:

Supporting myself is self care self care.

Kaide Solano:

I'm really grateful for self care today And others showing up for me.

Kaide Solano:

Including you.

Christina Elmer:

Well, thank you.

Christina Elmer:

Do you have any, particular forms of self care that you...

Christina Elmer:

I know that, you know, with working with Susanna, especially, like that's her

Christina Elmer:

big thing is just like the daily non negotiables, which are forms of self care.

Christina Elmer:

Are there particular ones that really help you, that you kind

Christina Elmer:

of go back to consistently when you're feeling out of alignment?

Kaide Solano:

Yes.

Christina Elmer:

That you'd be willing to share?

Kaide Solano:

It's so hard because I want to ask you.

Kaide Solano:

Yes, I'm willing to share.

Kaide Solano:

I just, um.

Christina Elmer:

You're not going to ask me.

Kaide Solano:

I want to ask you these questions and it's hard because I know

Kaide Solano:

you're interviewing me, but I like, um.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, I like so badly want to ask you these questions, but, um, for my self

Kaide Solano:

care when I feel out of alignment I recently, like, two weeks ago, I was

Kaide Solano:

dealing with, like, um, health issues.

Kaide Solano:

I think number one has to be, like, rest, but in order for me to rest,

Kaide Solano:

I, like, meditate, um, beforehand.

Kaide Solano:

One thing that keeps me always, keeps me feeling grounded, is, like, aside from,

Kaide Solano:

like, showering and getting dressed, is going for a walk and getting something.

Kaide Solano:

whether it's coffee,

Christina Elmer:

Just like a little treat.

Kaide Solano:

It's a little morning treat.

Christina Elmer:

I'm all about the treats.

Christina Elmer:

My coach Natalie really pushes the treats.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah, and then think about what I'm grateful for in the

Kaide Solano:

fresh air, and then I walk back.

Kaide Solano:

That is the one thing that keeps you really grounded, and keeping it simple,

Christina Elmer:

Yeah

Kaide Solano:

um, for self care.

Kaide Solano:

Because sometimes my to do list is like, is so long and overwhelming,

Christina Elmer:

Mmm.

Kaide Solano:

that like, the most important thing is just like, keep it

Kaide Solano:

simple as to like, what is the next thing you need to do, like being present.

Christina Elmer:

Yeah

Kaide Solano:

I think being present is one of the best forms of like, self care.

Christina Elmer:

Definitely.

Christina Elmer:

Cuz sometimes when we get out of the present moment, it's

Christina Elmer:

like we look behind, right?

Christina Elmer:

That's sometimes scary.

Christina Elmer:

We look ahead, it might be overwhelming.

Christina Elmer:

So I think that's a beautiful practice to just be in the present moment.

Kaide Solano:

Yeah!

Christina Elmer:

Well, thank you for sharing.

Christina Elmer:

Thank you for taking the time out today, Kaide . It was wonderful having you on

Christina Elmer:

the podcast today and seeing your face.

Christina Elmer:

I haven't, we need to do this more often outside of recording a podcast, but

Kaide Solano:

Yeah.

Kaide Solano:

I know.

Kaide Solano:

I would love to chat more often.

Kaide Solano:

I know.

Kaide Solano:

It's just hard.

Kaide Solano:

Life gets a hold.

Kaide Solano:

Life gets a hold.

Kaide Solano:

But, um, yeah, feel free to reach out.

Kaide Solano:

You're so awesome.

Kaide Solano:

And so, like one of the best interviewers.

Christina Elmer:

Thank you.

Christina Elmer:

Well, that's today's episode.

Christina Elmer:

Oh, I love Kaide.

Christina Elmer:

She is just a phenomenal human being and I hope that her story

Christina Elmer:

really resonated with you.

Christina Elmer:

You know, each of us can really create our own piece of heaven on earth.

Christina Elmer:

Even if it's just the small daily actionable steps that we take to take

Christina Elmer:

care of ourselves and then be able to take other care of other people.

Christina Elmer:

Sometimes it's just speaking up and being brave and showing up

Christina Elmer:

authentically will allow us to really be in alignment with our truest path.

Christina Elmer:

Thank you so much for listening today and allowing us to be a part of your day.

Christina Elmer:

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Christina Elmer:

all trades, Jen Cagle Gilmore.

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Leaving in Color is masterfully produced in conjunction

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with Particulate Media, K.O.

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Myers, executive producer.

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And I am Christina Elmer.

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Leaving In Color
with Christina Elmer
Leaving in Color is a captivating podcast that delves into the compelling narratives of individuals who have bravely chosen to depart from high-demand religious groups. In this thought-provoking series, we invite you to experience the unique journeys, challenges, and triumphs of those who have embarked on a path of self-discovery, liberation, and healing.

Host Christina Elmer is a Martha Beck Wayfinder-trained life coach and recovering Mormon. Join us as we celebrate persons of color and their resilience, strength, and vibrant experiences. Leaving in Color encourages you to reflect on the power of authenticity, the beauty of diversity, and the limitless possibilities that unfold when one embraces their true self beyond the confines of tradition.

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